Hi, I don’t really have many friends these days and it’s pretty depressing. I have people I talk too and interact with but rarely do we go out somewhere and enjoy new experiences and the relationships seem like they are going stale. I am starting to feel insecure that maybe I’m not a good friend and my current social situation is just a reflection of that. I want to be able to have better relationships with the people around me but I don’t know how. Any recommendations or peaces of advice?
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I empathize with this so much. I’m in a very similar position. I would like to know the same
Friendships become more difficult into adulthood. People get busy with work or family, they have more priorities and responsibilities than before. This is tiring so at the end of the day a lot of people are content staying home. It’s not they don’t want to hang out but it’s easier to stay home and relax, especially if they have a partner at home to spend time with.
I’ve been seeing this now as I pass my mid twenties. What I suggest is to be the one who is making the plans. You can’t wait for something to come up, you’ve got to be what’s coming up. You have to make things happen for yourself. I bothered my friends for a week or so to get them out and when we did they were all happy to be together again. It’s fine to be persistent with your friends, they shouldn’t be annoyed.
Additionally, if you can’t find things with your friends every week then I’d suggest finding things you can also do alone. Go to events your interested in, talk to people there. For instance I go to a local craft/flea market every week. I talk to the artists and some of the vendors who sell things I like (like records or trading cards). They may not become friends but it’s social and usually results in interesting experiences. A glass blower at the market invited me to check out his studio, I still have to take him up on that. Just got to get yourself out there.
Perhaps this is not the answer but more like an invitation. I have the same condition with you around 3 years ago but this change after i enter local game store near me.
I got many new friend, while not all friendly most of them are socially akward but still try to communicate with other people. You can try to join your local game store and most of the owner i know are super friendly and supporting.
Finding someone that share the same interest will also help with your conversation.
Same here. It’s a real struggle. The rat race is rough. I’m ready to be independently wealthy already. 😂