How do you feel about dissolved relationships where the person you knew is no longer someone you recognise from before?

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1. I’m happy they aren’t a thing in my life anymore.

2. I create distance and refocus energy elsewhere. I don’t need to think much about them so I redirect my energy when I catch myself.

3. When I start to “grow apart” from a friend, I do tend to ask myself whether I MYSELF have changed, in addition to (or instead of) the other person changing. I’ve definitely seen old friends in a new light as I’ve grow older and moved through different phases of life.

   EDIT: And growing apart is definitely not necessarily a bad or shameful thing. I had a boss who told me “some people are there for a reason, some for a season, and some for a lifetime.” No need to put pressure on yourself to maintain something that just isn’t working.

4. issue tends to happen when you get with a person you hope they would be instead of accepting who he already is. people dont really change that much

5. Honestly, it depends. Sometimes it’s bittersweet because who they’ve become isn’t really a bad person; just no longer right for me. Sometimes it’s grating because who they’ve become is substantially worse in some way than who they were before.

6. Itsl sucks but it happens for a reason they can’t be there so I guess it needed to happen.

7. Nothing, unless they’re exhibiting behavior that is potentially harmful to themselves and others. People are constantly evolving, it’s often a good thing.