So first off, I’m (32 f) very generous with not charging my sister (41 F) much when I do babysit her 4 kids ($20 per day (typically about 4 hours) which I wish I could renegotiate but oh well). I don’t usually ask where she went to (I figure it’s not really any of my business). Would I be an asshole if I asked her where she went after I babysit? She’s going to have me babysit tomorrow.
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Sure, you can ask. What’s she going to do, kill you? She’ll either tell you or she won’t. Don’t overthink it.
It’s good information to know if anything happens to her children and she needs to be reached.
No problem about asking what she is doing. She can always refuse.
Re money – be clear on how many time you want to babysit and tell her if she wants more then that either she increases the price or get somebody else to do it. Still if you are not working when you are babysitting 20$ are still nmore then $0 .
You can ask but that doesn’t mean she has to answer.
Sounds like the real issue here is the pay, maybe you feel like it’s not fair for her to be out doing whatever while you’re stuck watching her kids? Is that accurate? You can and should renegotiate your rate to where it’s acceptable for you and is worth your time.
You have an hour round trip commute and she’s only paying $20? If you’re babysitting to be nice, I get it but I suspect that’s not 100% the case. Could some of your anxiety be related to you knowing you’re being taken advantage of?
Regardless, I don’t think it’s assholish to be interested in what she’s doing.