I’m (M27) currently dating another girl – open relationship – and I’m doing great in life. I have everything a young man could ask for, but I can’t help to want this other girl so badly – let’s call her Ana (F31). I met Ana 10 months ago and I still think about her mostly everyday. She was introduced to me in a group of friends and we spent the whole night together, talking and getting to know each other. It felt so good being with her, we have many things in common and I could feel the chemistry from the very beginning. The connection I had with her was like nothing I’ve experienced before, and my friends could see that it was a mutual thing. The problem? She has a boyfriend, and I don’t want to meddle in their relationship.
I’ve tried to move on, and I’m even dating another girl, but Ana is always there, in the back of my mind. Sometimes I even dream of her and I write poetry inspired by her. I wish I could tell her all of this but I can’t, and that’s why I write it instead. We follow each other on Instagram and last week I texted her for the first time in around 9 months. She replied instantly and was eager to chat, but I didn’t want to come off too strong and so I ended the conversation after some texting.
This had never happened to me, so I’m a bit confused. What am I feeling? Is this love? Obsession? Infatuation?
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It sounds like obsession and infatuation. You can’t love her because you don’t know her. You can love *the idea* you have of who she is, but that’s a fantasy, not reality.
What do you think it was about your interaction that left such a mark for you?
Please leave the girl you’re with, you’re not being fair to her.
Probably love.
I feel the same for the crush/love of my life/love at first sight girl who got away