I have a new partner after years and years with the same person. I’m not confident in certain positions (being on top mostly) but am interested in getting better and more confident.

5 comments

  1. Try not to make it unnecessarily complicated.

    Sit down on him. Move in a way that YOU like.

    Often, that is pretty much all it takes. Let the sensations you give yourself guide you and motivate you.

  2. Congratulations on the new partner. I’d say take it slow. When i started out I’d mount my man and move slowly. Keeping my top on helped a lot. I also preferred to keep the lights off until i got used to it.

    Take it at your own pace and slowly level up what you’re doing so you can enjoy it too while gaining your confidence.

  3. Usually I just sit on top and straddle him just rocking or swaying my hips front to back changing motions. Practice dancing with your hips. It can teach you how to sway and roll your hips.

  4. Having your partner help guide you can be helpful.
    Having a more sturdy surface has been what I’ve found made the most difference. I felt like my body was all weird and rhythm was off if we do it in bed. But on the couch with one foot on the solid ground or even with him lying on the ground it’s a whole different ball game. I’m way more confident and have more stamina if I’m not also fighting for balance.

    Going to the gym and training leg exercises like squats and deadlifts also made a big difference for me

  5. Take it slow until you’re used to him. As a guy nothing’s worse than when she moves too far and slams down and squishes your dick. Personally I love when my wife’s on top making out with me whether she’s moving slow or not even moving. She can just have me in her and start squeezing me with kegels.

    If you’re wanting the best of both worlds then straddle him and lift yourself up so you’re hovering a couple inches above him. Then just tell him to go to pound town.

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