I don’t feel like I’m loved.

I am a stay at home and my husband works from home. For the past few months I just feel under appreciated and under valued.

I do all the chores, take care of the kids, buy groceries, and cook. At the end of the day, when he is supposed to stop working and spend time with me and the kids, he usually is playing on his phone or goes back to work again. He isn’t doing all the small meaningful things anymore and I’m at a loss. He hardly talks to me except about work. He never ask about my day or anything.

I finally brought it up last night and he said he’s stressed at work and him texting his friends or playing on his phone helps him unwind and he may be more distant because I’ve been spending too much money and he’s been angry with me.

I have been very irresponsible with our finances and I told him I realized that and I’m trying to work on it but I just feel like that doesn’t validate not showing affection towards me.

I’m at a loss, all im asking is for him to be more present but it seems impossible.

Am I asking too much and does my overspending validate that?