So she has been really protective over her phone and never been ok with me checking it. But recently she cheated on me when a girl kissed her at a party and she also showed the girl her tits. Anyway not that I think she’s cheating but it’s hard for me to trust her texting other guys and I constantly worry about it. Do you think it’s fair of me t ask her to show me her phone every once in a while. Or do I have to trust this and respect her wishes if I want to maintain this relationship? I feel like I’d show her mine whenever just to make her feel better because I have nothing to hide but she sees it as controlling
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The way she cheated on you did not involve her phone. Honestly, I think this relationship is over.
A different question to ask…
Do you really want to take the relationship down that road?
Every month, needing to do a check up to make sure she is on good behaviour?
Don’t you think it would probably just be better to call it off if you require a phone check due to suspensions and no trust?
I would consider it controlling to do check ups.
She’s already cheated on you? She kissed someone else and showed her boobs to them. Plus, she’s obviously hiding something on her phone since she never lets you look at it and is protective of it.
If you can’t trust who you’re dating without looking at their phone, then you need to break up.
I may be in the minority, but I’m against showing each other the phone history. To my mind this is a big invasion of privacy and not even a good way to build trust and confidence.
So no I don’t think it’s fair to ask her this.
As for the fooling around with a girl, one-time thing, personally I wouldn’t make too much of it. That’s kind of an experimental thing.
If you can’t feel you and your gf are on the same page, it’s probably better to break up and find someone else who is a little less wild.
why not just break up with her? her phone has nothing to do with this. “oh but my anxiety” ALSO has nothing to do with this if you already know for a fact that she cheated. stop looking for more ways to get your feelings hurt and just leave.