I have a pretty stress-free life… also I must point out; to say that my boyfriend is a great boyfriend is a gross understatement. I have always felt like this with all my passed relationships. So I know it is not a “him” problem. I don’t know why it takes hours for me to want to be conversational… idk what to do because he doesn’t deserve the way I treat him, especially when I know how excited he is to see me after work.
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Do you live together? It sounds like maybe you shouldn’t. It’s normal to not always want to engage with your partner or to want time alone or to do other things. I think there’s a big benefit to living together and being able to define the time you have together for when you want to be conversational, for instance.
If he’s excited to see you and wants to hangout just cuddle or watch tv or sit together while you do your own things instead. You don’t have to talk to have quality time, but I do feel at the least you can say hi.
Is this a reaction to him personally or do you need to time to yourself to decompress when you get home?
I gotta say OP, this is a first. It’s okay to want space and decompress alone after a long day. Your feelings are an outlier.
You know it’s an issue so you are halfway there. Is it possible to leave the home and come back when you are ready? There is no ideal solution; I’m just curious.