I feel like people are not liking me on who I am, and more of just laughing at me and the friends I have arent actually friends.
I am a silly person with some wit but sometimes I think My silliness is what people don’t like about me. There is some times where I say dumb things and people will view me as a dumb person there and I am trying to improve that but, Other stuff that feel more like me like having somebody toss a goldfish in my mouth or having monkey cymbals, people think Im a stupid person with that. My silliness is what people are thinking me of a dumb but also sped person snd I don’t know who to be anymore. I make people laugh everybody with my silliness but I think they are laughing at me personally and thinking I’m dumb in a bad way then an actual funny person.
People say to be yourself but what happens when being yourself is good. I know im doing something wrong and I dont want shit like “be yourself” because with that mentality you can never improve.
Today, my crush sent me an snapchat friend request because my friend sent a story mentioning me with a video. Now it just said my name with a funny acronym with my actual name being alireza and it saying Alinorizzah (Ironic right) but I feel like she didnt send me a friend because of who I am but because im just sped snd they wsnt to be friends with the “Sped kid”
I want to finally be able to know people dont view as a socially dumb,sped person and the person I want them to view with actuall banter instead of mean teasing. How do I fix that my silliness doesnt make me view as a dumb idiot an actual person while still retaining who I am
TL;DR people think im sped snd dumb in a bad way because of my silliness and im making people laugh and im making friends eith it but I think Im doing it in a bad way What do I do to fix that (Read last line of main details for my main question.)
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There are ways to improve social skills in other areas. It sounds like you’d be a great comedian though!
Comedians are masters at allowing people to laugh AT them, knowing what makes people laugh, they make a great deal of money doing it also.
But, if you don’t want to be told you are fine then there are some things you can try.
Don’t be funny for a day. I don’t mean be depressed or angry, but just for one day stop telling jokes and start asking people questions or telling stories or talking about things you really enjoy.
You will prove to yourself you aren’t the class clown and people may take you more seriously. The more you practice this the more you can notice when it is socially okay to make jokes or be silly.
But, in all honesty I truly believe If the REAL YOU is silly and fun, that is something amazing because we need carefree people in this world to make others laugh.
Watch some stand up comedians and see how they take people laughing at them. Comedy comes in many forms and you could become a master at it