I (23F) am a virgin and have been trying to loose my virginity with my fwb (30M). Honestly the sex is not that great but I really want to loose my virginity.
We unsuccessfully tried PIV for the first time and I thought there might be an issue like vaginismus or something. So I went to the doctor and had an exam, successfully inserted a tampon and was able to put 2 fingers inside of me with no pain. But then we tried PIV sex again it was a failure.
With my fingers I can feel my vaginal opening and I push inside but with his penis I can’t feel the exact opening and it wouldn’t push in like with my fingers it just slipped forward. So I’ve been trying to finger myself with 3 fingers because maybe I am still too tight. With 3 fingers I can get them in but it’s pretty tight. Like my fingers can go far but my vagina doesn’t feel wide enough and when I tried to thrust in and out my fingers just slip out. Lol like it’s overcrowded. I’m worried that if 3 fingers is too tight how will I have PIV?? Whenever I google being very tight most of the advice mentions feeling pain but I feel no pain.
So is it possible that my vagina is narrow? Is it possible for the vagina to expand width wise? Should I try dilators? I need advice lol
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Does does not sound mike an anatmical problem this sounds mental. It sou ds like you arent reay for piv even tho in your mind you want to just lose your virginity.
Why do you even want to so bad if you dont like the sex with him.
It doesn’t sound like a “too tight” issue.
Is he getting hard enough? The outside of the penis and the head should feel soft, but it should feel like it has a really solid core. It should bend some at the base but with a full erection it shouldn’t be soft enough to bend along the shift. If it’s not hard enough you’ll have trouble getting it in.
Also try different angles. Angle it so that it’s aimed more towards your tailbone. Also make sure that you’re trying to put it in far enough back.
Try a little extra lube! Also he may need to push a tiny bit harder than you would think. I also recommend using a dildo or toy on yourself right before penetration. It helps my pussy relax more. But honestly, it sounds like the main issue is that you’re not into the sex.