I (33amab) sometimes orger handjobs from my (27afab) partner over sex. They aren’t bad at sex, it’s always great, feels good and fun – they are very open to new things and we’ve been exploring a lot the last year or so. But every now and then, I don’t want sex, and I just want a handjob from them. I’ve always loved and sometimes preferred handjobs, bc in some cases they get me off harder than piv sex could. My partner doesn’t really lik giving them often bc they think when I’m horny for a handjob, I’m horny for sex. I’ve tried explaining that’s not always the case and I’ve offered to reciprocate in any way I can to make sure it’s equal for us, but this doesn’t seem to really make any difference.
Maybe I’m venting or looking for advice – idk how to feel – it’s never hurt our relationship or sex life much, if at all – but sometimes I wish they’d do it more often and I’d do the same for them.
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When you say “reciprocating in any way,” is it anyway but piv sex? Because as a woman, oral is nice, fingers are okay, but there’s nothing like a good dicking. Something I love to do with my partner is start with foreplay (handjob, blowjob), move to sex, then finish him off with my hands. Could be a happy medium for you.
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