I’ve tried searching for someone with this predicament, but it seems to rarely, if ever, come up. Penetrative sex is my absolute least favorite part of sex because I genuinely don’t like how it feels. I love sucking breasts and fingering, I’m 50/50 on oral (both giving and receiving, I definitely prefer giving than receiving, though), but something about penetrating just turns me off completely. Like, I only penetrate because I know she’ll like it, but I’m completely on auto pilot during that part. I feel selfish sexually because I never met a woman who’s happy with just pegging and never receiving penetration herself.
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What about anal?
I believe with hookups it would be harder to explain but with a long term partner something that would definitely need to be discussed since it should be enjoyable for both. Perhaps having the option of using toys on your partner would work if they’re still interested in having some form of penetration. Plus exploring other forms of pleasure together.
There are lots of women who don’t necessarily enjoy penetrative sex. You’re honestly an ideal for a lot of women. Just look up vaginismus.
Would you be willing to use a strap on to fuck women? Or is that an equal turn off? Also I am sure there are ladies who would totally be fine with this setup.
Why can’t you just use a dildo while you’re in penetrating your partner?
Are you on the ace spectrum? Not fully ace from the sound of things, but maybe partially? As for how to tell women, finding the right labels can help. Also, look into the kink femdom if you haven’t already.
I’m the same way. It’s not like I haven’t had some great penetration sex with women before, but personally I’m a masturbator. I prefer masturbation with women. And most women I’ve found prefer it as well. Once I bring up the topic we usually masturbate together and after that it’s a lot of masturbation for the rest of the relationship. I also have penetration disorder because of it. It used to bother me but now I don’t care. As soon as I penetrate a women I usually go limp right away. It really is kind of a turn off to me.
Women who are mainly tops do exist, but as with many people with desires outside of the societal norm don’t tend to broadcast it. The only thing I would suggest is to be open about what you want/don’t want (once it reaches that point), and if you don’t want similar things then you probably aren’t sexually compatible.
PS: to those saying that op might be gay, being a bottom does not make you gay, it’s attraction to men.
There are women out there with vaginismus, some kind of trauma or that don’t like that much being penetrated or simply that they enjoy much more other sexual activities, you might find someone like that 🙂
Do you masturbate? If so, you might have reached a death grip.
Your title made me think this was a complete different issue.
Okay so here’s what I would recommend: You might need to start out by looking at the fetish/kink community. Especially if you have local munches (basically meet ups for fetish people) – because what you’re seeking isn’t abnormal but it will take a little effort and time to find.
also pegging can use a double ended toy – so they get *pegged* while you do too.
The biggest thing is you have to be honest about what kind of sexual relationship you do want: oral, pegging, etc and have hard limits for things you don’t want: piv etc
*DONT FORCE YOURSELF TO FUCK JUST BC YOU THINK ITS REQUIRED*
So I’m somehwat similar. PIV is my least enjoyed form of sex. That also means that I can have ridiculous endurance. Unfortunately, this often means not cumming at all.
The “insecure” part of this… If you tell someone you don’t like chocolate, should they feel bad that you don’t like a chocolate cake they baked AFTER you told them about the chocolate thing?
If you approach this the right way, you can have lots of wins.
I’m sure someone out there would love this. Just have find them and stay positive
I definitely know a couple of women who would find this to be an ideal set up.
I’m just curious.. are you wearing a condom during piv?
Not you posting on another subreddit looking for a sexual encounter with a TEENAGER?? Whole ass pedophile. [What the fuck bro](https://www.reddit.com/r/dirtykikpals/comments/o3mckw/22_m4f_looking_for_busty_chubby_girls/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Penetration doesn’t do it for me either. Your not alone.
Penetration does very little for me, and I’m sure you can find a girl that will be thrilled with you be only interested in oral and foreplay!! Sex is not linear or the same for every relationship! Be open and honest, some may say ‘not interested’, but you’ll find someone who digs it I’m sure! Don’t be scared of rejection, they arent rejecting you, you just obviously aren’t compatible!!