So I’m high-school and during the summer I was feeling pretty down because i couldn’t make any friends last year and i didnt get invited to hangout anywhere. So I made it my goal to make at least a couple of friends I can hang out and talk regularly. But it’s been almost 5 months and no progress. But then I realized that I may be the problem as I looked around my other classmates friend groups loomed kinda toxic. They would get into alot of arguments and I wondered if they even liked each other. For example I heard how they someone stole something from someone as a joke gave to his friend didn’t give it back till the weekend. Then he said he told him to stfu and that he was gonna beat his ass or somethinglile that i wanst reallypayingattention. and this is I think common from what I have observed. This made me rethink who I consider my friends and to even pursue making friends Isolating me even more. I think I’m over thinking stuff and have a hard time accepting people’s flaws it’s also hard for me to form an emotional connection with someone. I have feel like I have been in stuck in my comfort for too long and it’s making me feel lonely and miserable
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High school is a hard time for almost everyone. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Perhaps try looking for friends from other schools by participating in activities surrounding your interests. Maybe even try a part time job. Just keep your head up and keep doin’ you. It takes a while to find your tribe.
From what I read on your post, the real problem here is those circles of friends you mentioned that show hostility to one another every now and then. Given their arguments and how they develop within the group, I’d even say they don’t really have proper social skills to begin with. Don’t let that make you give up on your quest for friends, though! If I were you, I would seek meetup groups which revolve around something you enjoy. A few examples: hiking, language exchanges, etc. These groups are a safer way for you to meet friends you can actually connect with and thereby gain a sense of belonging.