I know this sounds like a really dumb question, but without getting too into it, I haven’t been interested in sex whatsoever before my boyfriend, I haven’t even been into masturbation. Even now, with my boyfriend, masturbation doesn’t quite do it for me. I’ve only recently started having sex with my boyfriend, and from what I’ve heard it sounds really obvious to know when you’ve “finished” but I haven’t felt anything like that while having sex with him. I know he’s finished, but I still want to keep going and I don’t want to say anything if he’s already done and wants to do something else, also because he still lives with his parents who don’t respect his privacy and could walk in at any second, so it feels like I’m putting him at risk by going for longer. Any advice??
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If he’s finished, it’s over for that session. His penis will go soft pretty quickly and won’t get hard again for a while.
You’ll know when it happens for you. The recommendation is to always try to get the girl to finish first before PIV, have him finger you or lick your pussy. You’ll get there.
you cannot relax, so you don’t cum, ergo you are never finished.
Since you guys can’t be away from the parents it will be difficult for the both of you the exploremore with just straight PIV . Maybe try having your bf use sex toys on you and see if you get pleasure from that.
Can you afford a hotel 1 night so you can explore. You will definitely know about it when you get your orgasm. If he is caring he will want to learn and do it right for both of you and at first will need to get you there using fingers and tongue.
With experience you can get the foreplay timing right so you both have piv orgasm, hopefully the gold standard of mutual orgasms.
But take your time and learn what gets you there first.
Also, does your comment mean you haven’t solo masturbated. This would take away performance stress so buy some lub and see if you can teach yourself to orgasm so you can show him.
It will be much more difficult for you to orgasm with a partner if you’ve never done it by yourself first. Especially if you’re not doing it in a situation where you can relax and take your time
I would highly recommend getting a vibrator and learning to get yourself off, before having expectations it will happen with anyone else. To a certain degree it is a skill that some people need to learn – what feels good, what they like, what it even feels like.
well. try and read a bit about female orgasm and sex education.
typically women need more foreplay than men. and it also takes a bit more time for them to finish. but that’s vastly different from woman to woman and man to man.
so it’s possible you just don’t get to that point, if you’re ‘in a hurry’.
or you’re not too experienced and shold try and find out what position/speed etc is best for you.
concerning the sex toys some people recommend: i’d say they are optional. you could also use your fingers, his fingers or be creative. but it sure helps a lot to know your body, learn what you personally like and enjoy.
and there’s always the communication between two partners. it’s a bit difficult to talk about this, but generally speaking: he needs to know how it feels for you. he can only do something about it, if he knows. and most men (not all) are interested in also satisfying their partners.