Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little bit over 3 months and I’m really conflicted about this. He’s a great guy, very polite and treats me well, but he is insanely clingy. like has to call or text me at least once an hour when we’re not together. and it’s a lot, especially because I’m someone who likes a lot of time to myself. He also doesn’t really ask to hangout, more or less just shows up at my house with a warning prior. and I can somewhat tolerate this but it gets to be a lot. and he tends to mimic or copy a lot of the things I do. When we first met (around beginning of October) he went to a different school than me, which I was fine with, as I go to a small school and don’t like the dating pool in my school, but at the end of the winter semester, he transferred to my school, which I was okay with, since he had family in my school, but in reality it wasn’t because of them that he transferred. and not only the transfer, but he signed up for every class that I was in that he could. And when I was thinking about joining the National Guard, which he had never ever mentioned joining, and even tried to discouraged me from joining, he is now joining. I also don’t really see me and him being long term, he’s always talking about marriage and starting a family, but I personally don’t really want either of those things. And I will be moving 80 miles away during the summer and transferring schools, and we already live pretty far away from each other, and I really don’t like the idea of long distance, but I haven’t told him about me moving yet and I already know he is going to try to discourage me or change my mind about it, even though it wasn’t really my choice, but it is still something I want to do. Besides all this my family and a few of my friends think that I should break up with him and that I can do better, I just don’t know at this point. and I don’t know how this is going to affect him either, from the way he talks he wouldn’t take it very well. I think that’s a decent run-down of things, I’m sorry if it’s a lot to read, let me know what you guys would do or if you have any questions, thank you!
TLDR: clingy boyfriend but treats me well, should I dump him.