I’m a m21, live in southern california, going to community college pursuing a career in the medical field. I got like a small group of about 3 friends I really hang out with. Although we known each other since early school days, it’s came to a point where I see they don’t really have the same goals and habits that I do. They don’t have any long term goals in life just sort of drifting along, living with their parents, not interested in pursuing a career or skilled trade, just working minimum wage jobs. One of them is 24, living with his grandma,doesn’t want to go to college and is super lazy. They’re good friends, loyal, we have each other’s best interest. But I’m kinda at a point where I’m not really enjoying hanging out with them no more than a couple times a week because I feel I can be doing something more productive.I also feel that if I don’t find other social groups and make some new friends I’m going to be struggling later on with establishing the life that I want to live, not having a diverse social network, or worst case scenario becoming one of them.
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Get a job at a hospital. A PST requires zero certification. A care assistant takes a few weeks or months to get certified in. We have somehow far less employees now than ever. We’re drowning and you’d get hired quick.
After community college, you’ll find a lot more people with similar interests and goals.
Cultivate your hobbies while you’re not so immersed in school. It will be helpful later in life when you don’t have as much time.
Start spending time studying and preparing as well. You won’t have time to hang out with people a few times a week in whatever post bacc school you’re interested in.
Once you begin your actual study in your medical field it will be a alot easier to meet like minded people. As long as you have your ambitions and goals, it’s not likely you will become like ‘your friends’ despite hanging out with them. You do what makes you happy and feel productive, just because you are friends doesn’t mean you need to always spend time with them to the point that it negatively affects your life. Seek some career advice from your college and be involved with extra curriculum activities that will benefit you in a medical career path. You can try volunteering or trying to get a part time job to help you gain experience or get a foot in the door of your career.