Edit: Wanted to also add that my partner likes pleasuring me and seeing my reactions so we do a lot of foreplay! So it’s not that my partner is necessarily selfish or I’m not vocal with telling what I like and don’t like, but could it also be because I don’t feel like I’m sexually experienced enough with a partner and myself?
I enjoy getting my partner to cum, but almost every time we have sex, they are done and tired after cumming whereas I haven’t reached climax.
It’s a bit frustrating because I know myself and that I take a while to orgasm and have only gotten to that point a few times while masturbating (at least I think so?), but it has yet to be during sex. It’s not partner-specific either because I just never did with anyone. With my current partner, I have gotten close maybe twice but then they cum before I do and the sex is over.
I can’t recall if I had mentioned this to my partner before, but they haven’t said anything to me or asked if I came. I’m not sure how to bring this up because I don’t want my partner to get hurt or feel insecure. Yet the more I think about it, the more I desire to cum and I feel like it’ll eventually put a strain on our sex life.
Wondering if anyone has some advice to impart on how to bring it up or similar experiences to share? Thanks in advance!
3 comments
You have to communicate exactly this to your partner. It’s strange sometimes that we can get naked with someone but still shy away from telling them what we want sexually. I find it a bit concerning that the sex just ends when they cum but I’m not going to conclude without more details.
Tell them what you need, show them how to touch you. Get toys involved if you need to. While you enjoy getting your partner to cum which is great, you have to be the advocate for your own sexual pleasure too.
Pretty average Partners by the sound of it.
We make her the priority in the bedroom. Most times we will work to get her off. Like most she can’t climax during PIV so we do what she needs to get off in other ways. Then It’s my turn.
I suggest the same for you
A lot of people recommend the book *Come As You Are* by Dr Emily Nagoski. It might be worth giving it a look as being comfortable with your body, being able to advocate for yourself during and after sex and feeling able to experiment, both solo and together, can really help you get to where you want to be.