Doesn’t even have to be an online friend, maybe someone you’ve met in person. My online friend has been doing this for the maybe 5 yrs I’ve known him. I find it to be kinda rude so I’ve been playing at his game. More recently he’s been more responsive, but he sends a msg & I reply within a few hrs/days (depending how long he takes to reply). Then all of a sudden, he takes weeks to reply to a very simple conversation we were having, it’s usually casual/random banter. But when I post a story on social media, he’s the first to see it but takes long to reply to my last msg. I sometimes just stop replying, usually he’s the first one to initiate talking to me bc I don’t even want to bother. If you’re quick to see my stories, is it that hard to just reply to my last response to your msg? I had to ask him yrs ago when I noticed this pattern if I said something or he had an issue with talking to me & he said no he was genuinely busy at the time. I’m petty so I can play the game too.
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Kinda sounds like you deserve each other tbh
i totally can understand why this is a frustrating situation to be in.
sometimes ppl don’t want to put in energy to respond to a friend’s text. that’s fine. sometimes when we expect someone to do something, it puts some pressure on the other person, even if that if those expectations are not explicitly stated. that pressure can have an effect on someone, maybe they would enjoy texting back w/out any of the pressure. if i don’t respond to my friend’s texts, doesn’t mean i don’t like my friend, or they did something wrong. it just means i didn’t take the action to respond and that’s it.
i understand why you feel frustrated abt the lack of responses, and this is someone you want to talk to. since we can’t control other ppl, they don’t follow our expectations of them and that’s fine. the connection between you two can happen when the time is right.
I hope this perspective helps you
I sometimes take a long time to reply because I don’t have the time or energy to get into a conversation at that moment or my anxiety is bad
Are you sure this is a friendship? I see little to no affection at all from either of you in this post.
I’ve got friends that take days to respond. Everyone is different. It’s still annoying but try not to think about it