How common or often does an idea pop up and is just a mental thing.
To clarify I watch gangbang/threesome type videos to get off and during sex with my wife I picture a MFM.
Post sex/nut I lose interest in the idea and love the intimate closed relationship that it is.
It’s not that I’m debating if I would ever go through with the act because I know neither of us would want it. I’m just wondering if there is an issue of thinking one way imaginary/fetish when you know there is no real life scenario it would happen.
Like imitating with a toy for a MFM or multiple toys is one thing but the real act with people isn’t the interest.
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That’s what your fantasy is there for and porn just supports this.
Liking the idea about something is another thing than doing it.
Keep fantasizing about stuff you like, no shame in doing it
I get turned on by porn that I wouldn’t be interested in trying in real life. It’s similar to a lot of exciting, fantasy subjects. I like fast car and shoot em up movies, and I drive an old minivan (gladly following traffic laws) and have no desire to own guns. I like superhero, Kung Fu, and alien invasion movies and shows, but I don’t want to live in those worlds.
Multiple people having sex is fun and exciting when it’s strangers on a screen. In real life involving my partner and myself there would be a lot of important things to consider that I’m not thinking about when watching porn. I don’t think I’d be into it.
Wait during sex with your wife you fantasise about another person? That doesn’t seem great to me tbh…
I watch gangbang porn but would never have one.. I also have a cuckquean kink in fantasy but the relationship would be over if it happened in real life
Fantasies are just fantasies
Fantasies are totally normal. It’s nothing to worry about
My husband and I both get off/have fantasies we both know we wouldn’t enjoy if it actually happened (his is gangbang/MFM, mine is Cuckold) but the thought alone can get us going. No shame in having a fantasy. I think it’s more common than people think.
There’s research that says we are interested in things that would typically disgust us when we are intensely aroused.
Totally normal. You’d be shocked to learn your wife probably has fantasies that aren’t specific to you and your body exclusively as well!
What’s really cool is if you find out you have some overlapping fantasies you can explore together. In the case of the stuff you don’t want to actually do in real life (like adding other people into your relationship), assuming she were into it, you could explore adding toys, dirty talk, scenarios, role play etc. Amy fiancée and I found we had overlapping fantasies in this area, and though neither of wants to actually do anything like it in real life, exploring that fantasy together in the way I described above has really opened up a lot of fun new activities for us.
TLDR; everyone does it, don’t feel bad, there’s fun and safe ways to explore some of these things together with your partner
Fantasy is completely different to reality.
So, I have this fantasy of my boyfriend taking me to this work banquet. Which has hundreds of hard working firemen. He buys me a beautiful extravagant dress with some sexy lingerie underneath. We enjoy our evening. He shows me off as his little trophy, we talk to other strong masculine men that you know want me. Later on he tells me to get him a drink as he’a busy talking some of these men. I come back with his drink in hand he says meet him in the room in 15 minutes. I go to our room open the door to 5 older gentlemen in suits, he tells me to approach and kneel before him. I kneel, and he tells me that all these men want me. He is going to allow them to use me however they want and I am to not embarrass him so to do as I’m told. They ravish me, take me in so many ways and when they finallly all cum all over my body they leave. My boyfriend approaches me, says “good little slut, now it’s my turn” then he fucks me with all there cum all over my pretty face and body.
Now, I can’t deny it’s such a hot fantasy. Reality of
It happening? Eh probably not. But it’s hot and I’m okay not doing it because it might eat at me no matter how much he reassured me. Fantasy is worth doing when your both excited by it and know you won’t
Feel guilt. Somethings are better left as fantasies. Just my thought.
I’m a mostly straight guy who mostly prefers gay porn lol. I’ve experimented enough to know it’s mostly fantasy.
IMO there is no harm in using your imagination during sex. I’m not sure it means to have to or are interested in acting on those imaginations. Just have fun and don’t take it seriously.