I want to help raise my partner’s self-esteem. He knows he’s average (maybe even a bit under average) so I’m not going to fool anyone by saying “oh god babe, your dick is sooo big.” But I want him to really feel like he’s pleasuring me (he does) when we have PIV sex so he can enjoy it more.

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  1. “Your dick is perfect for me / it hits all the right spots”

    “Your dick is so hard I love it”

    “I love the way your dick makes me feel” or
    “Your dick makes me feel so good / feel amazing”

    Got to get creative! A dick has much more attributes to it than just size

  2. Try things like: “I am so glad this cock is all mine.” “I love how full I feel when you’re inside me.” “I love it when you do that _____”.

  3. I mean, you don’t have to mention his dick at all. “Oh that feels so good”. “Keep hitting the spot daddy”.

    If you must mention his dick, you can just say something like “Your dick feels so good” or something like that.

  4. Initiate sex.

    If he wasn’t doing it for you, you wouldn’t be the one initiating. That will do more than any words.

  5. A long time ago, a woman I was getting flirty with asked me about my size. I answered honestly: “I’m average.” Shortly thereafter we were in bed getting after it doggy style and she shouted, “Oh my God! You are NOT average!” I will never forget that!

  6. Speaking as a man, you’ve already said all you need to with this line:

    >I want him to really feel like he’s pleasuring me (HE DOES)

    How to make him feel good? Tell him what you honestly told us. Don’t go on about size (you are right, if he’s aware he’s average/below average, this will come off as fake praise), but tell him how much you enjoy sex with him. How it feels, how well he knows how to use it etc. You don’t need tips or tricks here, just be honest with him like you have with us. Also, if you enjoy sex with him, don’t wait for him to initiate, go for it yourself. I can’t speak for ALL men, but I’m sure many of us will read enthusiastic initiation as “she wants me”.

  7. Don’t complement the size of his appendage but how he makes you feel. Tell him your pussy has been wet all day thinking of his cock throbbing and unloading in you.

  8. Just say “it feels so good”, nothing to do with size. Also make him feel good. You can borrow a little from cock worship kinks. Suck him slowly and sensually while keeping eye contact. Use your hands on him while watching his cock respond. You don’t even have to say much, if he sees you enjoying his dick, it will give him an ego boost

  9. I have never once commented on a guys dick size in bed, and I’ve been with many sizes.

    I say “your dick feels so good” if it’s true

    Otherwise I say I need your dick, i want it, crave it, give it to me, etc

  10. i love your dick

    your dick feels so good

    I love how you fit in me

    it gets so hard

    you cum so much

    i love sucking your dick, etc

    you dont need to really comment on the size

  11. Honestly tell him it’s exactly what I want and I love it.

    That being so much easier to give head!

    My ex was just below average and it was one of my favorite things, because the head and a hand job were easier. And he wanted nothing more than make me cum. So whatever I wanted he was for.

    Verses other ex’s who were like my duck is huge I don’t need to do anything.

  12. I’m kinda going through this with my wife. I recently decided to get adventurous and send her a dick pic. I never do that. The only response I got was “balls” and nothing more. So, yah. Just don’t say that.

  13. i always enjoy average dicks more because i don’t get sore afterwards. i call it “boyfriend dick” because you can have sex every day and it’s not a problem. guys always think bigger is better but the best dick i’ve ever had was less than 6”. if he’s ever insecure or says something about it being small, i’d say use that fact to reassure him (if applicable lol)

  14. I’m a smaller guy and most compliments bounce off of me because once someone has made fun of your dick, nothing positive sticks anymore. But I did have one lover who said,

    “I love how your dick fits my pussy”

    And I almost exploded. “Fit” means “of a suitable quality, standard, or type to meet the required purpose”.

    All I’ve ever wanted is a penis suitable for intimacy. And in that moment, I felt like I had one.

  15. You just be truthful. Tell him what he does/is that makes sex with him so satisfying. Think less about building him up and more in terms of just showing appreciation. He likely doesn’t need to hear he’s huge, just that you’re enthralled with him.

  16. I’ve below average. I’ve admitted and told her that I know it’s small. She knows is small too.

    When she says things like “I want your cock inside me”, “Give me your cock”, “You feel so nice in my pussy”, it makes me feel like a porn star.

  17. Initiate sex, make him feel desired. That’s the best and only compliment he needs.

  19. The compliment I enjoy receiving the most is “I love the way you’re fucking me”, and this compliment can apply regardless of size

  20. I agree that if he’s average, telling him it’s big only hurts your credibility. You can focus on all the things you enjoy about it. Here are some things to say while you’re sincerely enjoying it:

    Your dick is the perfect size for me.
    My pussy loves your cock.
    Your horney girl needs your beautiful cock.
    I can’t get enough of your beautiful cock.
    I want you all the way inside me.
    Be enthusiastic when his cock comes for you. It’s a way to show his cock pleasing you by what it does. Tell him it’s sexy as fuck.
    If you’re OK with creampies, be passionate when he comes inside you. Beg him to come inside you. Show him what his dick does for you when it explodes for you.
    Emphasize what his cock does for you.
    Tell him you’ve been thinking about it all day and what you want it to do for you and what you want to do to it.
    Confidently unleash the secret cock whore inside you.
    Be careful you don’t go overboard and appear insincere.

  21. Show him by actions, show him you WANT it.

    Don’t ever mention size as a compliment. Tell him you want him in you…frequently! ‘Feels perfect’, ‘hits all the right places’ ect. Take ownership of his dick, call it yours, text him for pics…’show me my favorite dick’…ect.

    Touch it, frewuently, grope him, hold it in your hand when cuddling/sleeping/ect.

    Source: below average sized penis owner who’s ex made me really feel like she really enjoyed my little guy.

  22. I am a member of the “Barely Average” club, so I think that your concern is very sweet and loving. I’m middle-aged now and IDGAF about my cock size, considering I use it well, I get a lot of pleasure from it, and it helped make kids.

    I think the best way to encourage him is to love getting fucked by him. If he’s like me, chances are that he also has a love of giving oral. Be sure to really get into it and enjoy yourself. Seeing a partner writhe in pleasure is one of the most wonderful things in the world.

    As far as what to say? Stuff like “OMG baby, your cock feels so good…mmm…make me cum.” definitely hits that sweet spot for me and keeps me going.

  23. Agree with all the other comments that your *actions* speak loudest. But in terms of words, use a lot of *this* and *your* and *you*. He wants to please you and he wants his cock to be pleasing to you – he also wants to be desired by you, and he wants you to desire *his cock*, specifically. If you can make him feel that, he’ll be a happy man. Size is nothing compared to that.

  24. It seems like other people covered most of the bases but please don’t forget to initiate often. If you’re not initiated then your words become less believable over time.

  25. Average dude here chiming in w my experiences.

    I had an ex and a fling that publically told me i had a tiny dick and the fling said thats why we stopped hooking up.

    The ex had full body-shaking orgasms when we were together, but still, it was devastating and crushed my self esteem for years.

    You know the best compliment i ever received about my dick? My wife, first time she saw it, audibly moaned in anticipation. Hottest thing ever, and was a huge self-esteem boost.

    As others said, dont mention size. Even if youre wording it to be a compliment, if its something he’s self conscious about, it can fuck with his head. Instead, try focusing on how much you want it.
    “I need your cock inside me.”
    “I cant wait to feel you in my mouth,” etc.

    Those are the compliments that helped my self esteem and made me feel wanted and desired and like the size didnt really matter much.

    Of a favorite my wife used one of our first times together, “my pussys been waiting for a dick like yours.”

  26. Under no circumstances tell him he’s perfect “because the big ones hurt”. If you’re going to compliment him, just tell the truth.

    I love how thick you are
    I love the way you fuck me
    I love your cock
    etc..

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