Ive been in this relationship for 8 months now. He has managed to wreck two cars since I’ve been with him and I’m always in the car with him when he does. I have found that his reckless and impulsive behaviors hurt me and I get anxiety and stress on top of that and he wonders why I’m sad and upset. My emotions don’t seem to matter because he makes me feel crazy when he asks what’s wrong with me. I’m just overall fed up because I’ve always been a loving and giving girlfriend.
I seem to get into codependent relationships with men that manipulate and take advantage of me because that’s what my normal was when I was growing up with my parents. I have learned to love myself and have needed to put boundaries up because people love taking and are shameless about it and have no heart it seems. I decided to move up here with him to Oregon from Los Angeles I was a nanny for 6 years and held art sessions for kids at the park, dedicated my whole heart and soul to it but was overworked and underpaid. I got tired of the same everyday tasks and wearing myself thin that I made a decision to move. I was on my own and had my own place, he lives with his parents still and I knew that it wouldn’t be a good idea but I went through with it anyways. It’s been nice getting into nature and having that time for myself. But he seems to just want to control every aspect of me. I thought he wanted better for me and was looking out for my wellbeing but he just nit picks and I ended up changing my whole diet and routine for him. He is very self centered and hard to deal with. His parents are pretty supportive but he just expects everyone to support him and pick up his slack and fix his problems and it’s exhausting. I’m over it. I’m just alone and have no support myself so I am just confused and unsure where to turn. I thought he was a good guy but the more I get to know him the more he shows he is just unsafe to be around. Thoughts? Any good energy would be nice I’m really dealing with all this and have no one to talk to.
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You’re clearly aware of how abusive he is. I think it’s worth reflecting that if you truly loved yourself, you wouldn’t be with a man like this. You know you don’t deserve to be treated like this. This isn’t love.