I know it’s not something to complain about, but my current partner seems to be obsessed with giving me head. It’s to the point that they insist on blowing me any time that we are starting to get intimate. They also talk about wanting to give me one quite often and honestly seem to like it more than having sex.
The issue isn’t necessarily this obsession, but instead it’s the fact that I just don’t really like oral that much. They aren’t bad at it by any means but I feel pretty awkward if I’m just sitting there and not doing anything to please them. I want to be thankful but I just feel like I should be giving them more. Has anyone else found a way to not feel so awkward? Is there something I could do for them besides returning the favor afterwards?
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69 so you are both busy
It might be a passing phase, so just sit back and enjoy it while it lasts.
There are so many things you can do other than just sit there!
– get a vibrating egg to put in their vagina (if they have one) while they do it then you can watch them squirm
– make it more of a joint activity. Grab their hair/head/neck and guide them or if they like it rougher you can push their head on and off or hold it there
– have a big mirror nearby and you can both look at each other while it’s happening
– if you’re lying down you can probably position them where you can get a hand or toy on their gennies
– 69 but that’s one of those things that looks more comfortable than it is
– give instructions and make it a task. “faster, slower, keep it in your throat for ten seconds, good job, good (gender pronoun here), lick it” etc etc.
You could certainly turn this into a form of play, where the blow job becomes a “reward“ for other things that the two of you do. Basically, it’s a very mild form of power-play.
This way, it doesn’t feel it’s one-sided because it’s something that both of you were playing with together, but it still gives her what she wants.
That said, if you really are not that into blow jobs, well, maybe this isn’t a good fit.
“There are two kinds of women in the world, ones who will give you just enough to get by, and those that love nothing more than to have a dick in they mouth.” – Chris Rock
I love blowing my husband. Usually when I am, he’s on the bed laying down and he’s fingering me at the same time.
Some love giving head an get off on pleasuring their partners, my gf loooovves head, my alarm clock is her mouth at this point!
But i also love going down on her. I get off seeing her get off an she gets off seeing me get off. When you find someone like this…hold onto them 🙂
Feel her tits while she’s doing it.
There are lots of things you can do instead of just sitting there. You could plan your meals for the next week. You could bust out a ukulele and write a new song. Maybe your partner will start humming along and now you are a musical duo. Or maybe just count backwards from 100. Just gotta get creative with it.
“Woe is me, boo hoo hoo, she won’t stop blowing me.” 🙂 Enjoy!