Recently i’ve been trying so hard to make friends. over the past years i haven’t been able to make friends i’ve always been pretty bad at talking and social cues. It’s super hard to say what’s on my mind or explain myself. Everyday i feel guilty and horrible because im so bad at talking every-time i try to talk with someone or interact my mind just instantly shame/ myself for not being as good as them at talking or not thinking what they were thinking. i feel so plain, boring and unfunny. i really want to change im tired of having no connection and being alone but it’s so hard i try to not give up but i don’t know what im doing wrong i keep telling myself i’ll make a connection soon but it’s just not happening.
I’ve also been losing touch with my best friend and i can barley talk to them either. it’s so weird because i used to be good at talking to them as well. It’s like i lost my spark and the will to just be able to talk and do normal things
how do improve with talking?
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To talk to people you gotta be passionate about it. Mention things you like to do and I’m sure you could talk for as long as you want about those things. Just make sure the other is actually interested in what you are saying, nothing worse than being trapped in a conversation you don’t care about.
If they don’t align with your hobbies then just listen to what they have to say and add comments and questions like “That’s sick, I always wanted to do that” / “How long have you been doing it for and how do you find the motivation for it?” then normally it brings you into the conversation where it’s not just all about them.