Hello everyone. Im (26m turning 27) looking for opinions and advice on my current situation. Ive been single for 7-8 years . I guess you can say Im kinda scared to take a dip back at the water as I was burned badly before. Ive never acknowledged it till now. My last relationship I was in loved. I was committed . Our relationship lasted for 7-8 months but I found out she was married. That destroyed me emotionally. It took me almost a 1 – 2 years to recover. Ive tried getting in to relationship for the past 8 years (trying to hook up) but I couldnt do it. I cant seem to fall in love or maybe Im to scared to do so. So this means Ive been single and sexless for 8 years now. Why?
I dont know but I cant have sex with no emotional attachment.
Ive had some ladies express interest in me through the years but I just cant seem to commit. Sometimes I feel scared that Im gonna get played or Id mess it up.
Sometimes Id be to insecure to come up to ladies thinking theres no shot.
I mean I do feel lonely at times specially when Im at home.
A co worker once told me that out of everyone she knows Im the person with the most character.
Im getting close to my 30s. I dont know what to do with this.
Everything has been going great on the outside but everything feels so hallow on the inside. What do I do? Where do I start?
TL;DR!
Person who’s been single for almost 8 years ,clueless and dont know where to start. To scared and insecure to even try.
1 comment
That’s a tough spot to be in. You’ve been hurt before, and it’s understandable that you’re scared to take the leap again. But you can’t keep living like this. It’s not fulfilling to go through life without love and companionship.
It’s clear that you have a strong character and you’re a good person. That’s something to be proud of and something that’s hard to find. But it’s time to start putting yourself out there. You can’t let the fear of being hurt again control your life.
I know it’s easier said than done, but start small. Take baby steps towards putting yourself out there. Start by talking to someone you find interesting or go on a date. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Just enjoy the moment and see where it takes you.
And remember, you’re not alone. A lot of people struggle with this, and it’s okay to seek help if you need it. There’s no shame in that.
You deserve happiness and love. Don’t let your fear hold you back. Good luck on your journey!