As the title states, I (22M) am on the spectrum and I have trouble relaxing around new people. It just takes me a while to warm up to folks. I don’t get super tense or anything but I just can’t be as charismatic or funny as my friends tell me I am around new people.
People tell me I have “rizz” and stuff but that I don’t use it or don’t have the confidence, but it’s mainly that it takes me a while to get comfortable talking to people, and first impressions are pretty important with dating and I think women usually can figure out if they would date you or not early in conversation.
I’ve been ghosted, left on read, or simply seen signs that girls had lost interest because I couldn’t relax and be myself. I’m not sure what to do, because trying to date and failing over and over is emotionally exhausting
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Try to find any hobbies in common and see if there are like places to hang out with said hobbies or something and bond over that