My partner (38M) and I (33M) have been together for over a year now. We’ve moved in together, decided we want to get married this year and have many other goals we are working towards together and individually. Lately I have been having a strong feeling of being abandoned or him deciding that this is no longer what he wants, and I know that’s fine and I know I would be ok, but I just want to figure out a way for this to not be an issue. He recently has come to me and said my constant need for reassurance is wearing on him and making him rethink our relationship.
Has anyone experienced this and found a way around it? I just want to be out of my head and be secure in my relationship.
tl;dr: boyfriend (38M) let me (33M) know my attachment style is brining too much and could jeopardize entire relationship.
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What are you doing about those feelings? How are you behaving?
I would say that there is a constant need. I also believe I do put up some walls when I get in my head. I know that can’t help.