Moving too fast?
I’ve (24f) been talking to a guy (31m) just over a month, and while he’s really nice, sometimes it feels a little clingy. He wants to ft almost every weekend and texts me quite a bit throughout the day.
We were on ft the other night and he showed me around his room a bit; he has two sinks in his bathroom and mentioned one can be mine if/when I stay over (we’ve only been on one in-person date).
He asked me on a date to a restaurant for valentines and I said yes, and then he mentioned that he had already made the reservation a few days before he asked me. He played it off and said if I didn’t go, he’d jokingly go with his buddy for friends valentine.
Sometimes, even before we met in person, he’ll refer to me or things I do as “wife material”. He’s told his brothers and sisters about me, too.
I can’t tell if he’s overly affectionate or I’m just cold; I’ve been told by exes in the past that I’m not as affectionate as they’d like me to be.
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I would agree that he is coming on awfully strong.
And depending on the recipient, some enjoy the love bombing, others feel like its too extreme (too much to handle).
Given he’s at the age where he’s probably looking to settle down soon, he’s coming on strong for that reason. At least that’s my theory. I think he’s going a bit fast. If it’s not a pace you’re comfortable with, tell him. He’ll respect that or will find someone receptive. 7 years is kind of an age gap lot given he might want someone serious and might be dating to marry. You may be in different stages with career and personal goals. Talk and get on the same page for both your sakes. It’s also possible he’s an excessive guy with affection and he’s not serious but only he knows what he wants or intends, so talk to him.