I feel lonely and feel like my friends aren’t really my friends. I let them come over to my room and buy them drinks when I have money. We are classmates in college and there are only 16 of us. Most of us hang out at school and chat, but the other day I saw six of them hanging out at one of my friend’s houses and I wasn’t invited. This has happened before with a different person in our group and I wasn’t invited to their bar outing near my house, even though they often ask me to stay at my room when they don’t have classes. Am I overreacting by feeling sad and lonely when these things happen?
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Sounds like two of the six isn’t close to you and close to the other 5. You don’t have to be close to all 16 friends of yours.
Seems like inclusion may be one of your forms of intimacy. Having a big friend group or a lot of friends just means you have to accept not being included in every single thing.
I feel this. I have multiple friend groups.. but am an outsider in each one.
So your friends have a life outside of you? In a group of 16 people of course they will be times when you are not invited.