(F28 here) Basically my bf (M30) really enjoys woman on top/cowgirl..most of the time we’ll switch to it at least once during sex. I’m totally fine with that because it can also give him a break for a bit, but it’s not one of my favourites.
Lately he keeps wanting to start sex with me on top of him, if we’re on our sides touching before starting sex etc, he’ll pull me on top..and I just find that a huge turn off. I’ll ask after if we can be in a different position to start, and he’ll oblige..
But I just wonder, am I being sort of selfish? If that’s his favourite position I feel bad if I always don’t want it.. but I think it’s mainly just because I feel like he keeps wanting it so much lately that I don’t feel like doing it as much. In the past I’ve also enjoyed surprising him with it too sometimes..
Not really sure what to do.
Update: I guess posting here gave me a bit of motivation on the topic so I just texted him about it. He said he hasn’t noticed he keeps putting me on top but that yes we can do something else to start, with a smiley face. Problem solved I guess!
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Nothing wrong with mixing things up. If you love him you’ll do his favorite from time to time and if he loves you he won’t force you to do it.
Yes, it’s OK. Sex isn’t just about him. He should be giving you your favorites at least some of the time, hopefully half the time.
How long has it been like this?
It’s totally okay. You don’t need to have identical sexual preferences.
What you do need to have is some ‘arrangement’ where both of you are satisfied.
If he likes cowgirl, you could do it for while and then switch to some other more comfortable position and vice versa.
As long as both of you are able to enjoy sex, it’s fine.
It sounds like you both have favorite positions. Just try and mix it up and make 50/50 yours and his favorite starting positions.
Take it from an older woman, it’s ok not to like anything you don’t in fact like. Also, cliché as it may be, the best way to have great sex is to communicate well with your partner. If there is anything I regret in my sex life, its inevitably the result of not talking about issues when they arise. It sounds like you absolutely did the right thing by communicating, rather than letting it fester and become a much bigger issue. We can’t expect our partner, no matter how much we are in love, to read our minds.
Some positions are just not right for people. It’s all in your preference