I’m 95% sure that this is creepy, but I have such a hard time talking to strangers because of my social anxiety.
I’m a college student and I have a handful of people who I sorta know because we’ve bumped into each other a couple of times. They don’t scare me because that barrier of unfamiliarity has fallen, but I’m acquaintances with them at best since we’ve never really done anything with each other and they seem to have established friend groups already.
Do I just give up on them because that’s creepy and trying too hard and the friendship would’ve happened by now if they wanted it, or do I still try to see if I can get closer to them?
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You can try, just expect things to not always work out.
No there’s absolutely nothing creepy about that.
And nobody thinks about you often enough to even consider you creepy.
> and the friendship would’ve happened by now if they wanted it
No. Life doesn’t work that way. Most people are shy themselves and pretty opportunistic when it comes to making friends. If you present an opportunity in front of them they might take a bite!
Don’t overthink this. Next time you see them talk for a little. And then say:
Hey, we see each other all the time, but never had the opportunity to get to know each other. let’s grab a beer/ice cream/xxx some day. Give me your number/facebook/xxx”.
Don’t expect 100% success rate.