I meet 3 Friends today. Each Separately and one even online (playing Terraria). I thought that it would be a lot of fun but it wasn’t really. I mean it was okay but now I feel empty. I think I did play character all the time.It wasn’t really enjoying time together but more like grinding relationships to benefit of the pros of having friends! Do you now this feeling? Is this normal?
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Find new friends.
I find 99% of people to be a drain on my emotional/mental resources. That other 1% though invigorate me, it’s all about finding the *right* people.
Me being an introvert, I’ve noticed that after a long day of socializing that I need some down time by myself to “recuperate” as my mind and body will fill drained.
Maybe you just need time to relax and reflect on what you did with your friends. Maybe next time you can do something different with them to expose yourself to new experiences. The best thing is that you attempted and succeeded in socializing today. That’s a win!
I read the book “How to win friends and influence people” and practiced it for a couple weeks at work. Absolutely sucked ass. I hate fake smiling.
I sometimes need to step away for ~30 minutes after talking with others for a few hours. I feel like my brain and heart are constantly speeding up and speeding up to help me think and respond quickly, but unfortunately this is also extremely exhausting and after a few hours I’m too drained and need a break. It also significantly impacts my mood.
I feel super energized and refreshed after going for a night walk or just somewhere where you can disconnect from technology for a while.
So, yeah, breaks! Take breaks after talking with people! Talking to new folk is extra exhausting so I usually take much more frequent breaks in that case if I don’t want to be completely dead by the end of the night.
I’m pretty extroverted and having three separate scheduled social interactions sounds tiring to me.
I also have friends who love being around people but I can see their brain shut down at some point when they’ve met their limit. And friends who get a “social hangover”. It’s all normal.
You just need to figure out your limits and who/what energize you. I’ve realized that I leave certain friends feeling happy and peaceful… other friends i might feel irked or drained. Let the feelings guide you to the right people and things.
And I agree with the person who mentioned walking and disconnecting from tech. That’s been very beneficial for me as a daily ritual.