I [23] have been talking to this girl [22] for about a year and a half. I have had reservations from the beginning but I decided to “what if…” and went with it. Today I went out with a couple friends for drinks and I heard some very uncomfortable things and I feel very uneasy about this relationship. This girl had an only fans and only initially talked to me to try and get me to buy her pictures. She would never open my messages or have a convo at all but if she wanted me to give her money, there she was. (No I never bought them). She did this to the friends I was with as well but she also made an effort to try and date them/converse with them. It made me very uncomfortable. It was all around the time we started talking after hearing them talk about it, I was definitely the second or third choice. They all rejected her for her habits (ie I’ve never seen her sober and neither have they and they didn’t want to date an only fans girl etc) and so she came to me. I feel very silly because I knew that this lifestyle would not fit with mine because I am a total health nut and I also do not like being extorted for money. At the same time I feel like I am just being extremely insecure and I just lack confidence and I really am just feeling very weird right now. I don’t think I want to hang out with her anymore and that I need to focus on myself and getting comfortable with my career and the places I want to go. I like her but when I learn that she’s tried to extort me and my friends for money, has tried to date them and ignored me, and is always drunk and/or high, It just doesn’t sit well with me. Am I being ridiculous? Please be straight forward. I want to grow as a person and if I’m being way too out there please please tell me.