Background: My bf and i have been dating for almost 2 years. last year december there were some infedelity issues from my side first and his and i let go but he dragged the issue till middle of January. At that point i was giving up and a friend was expressing interest in me.
I was keeping an open mind and was responding i then told my bf i wanted to explore he fought with me called me racial slurs, insulted me on it and said “we broke up”. so the day i went to see this friend he noticed and hacked into my twitter, snapchat and instagram. i still went to see this guy and had sex. mind you we are on a break. now after we talk and he says it’s fine the very next morning he break up with me. he starts seeing a girl and now they’re dating.
now he says he wants me back and we’re talking and any time i try to talk he shuts me up. after we are cool he confesses that he met some other girls who liked him, and even his best friend likes him and they talked about dating. yet this one thing i do he makes me feel bad about the hookup. he’s still seeing the girl, still us friends with the girls who expressed interest in him.
yet when he told me to stop talking to the hookup i did but he says i should earn him, but he’s not putting in any effort just keeps fighting like he didn’t do anything. what do you think?
TLDR: i cheated, he cheated but makes me feel var constantly and i can’t ask him any questions about his cos i did it first
8 comments
I think you should stop cheating if you want a healthy relationship
Too much drama move on with it get away from the toxic
He called you racist slurs, and he’s telling you what to do while he behaves how he wants, there’s cheating involved and you have to prove you deserve him? It’s toxic af. Get out.
Don’t waste any more time on this one. There’s no viable relationship here. Make a clean break and do better next time in any subsequent relationship you’re in.
had a relative that have situation escalated to worse. They have a kid and the cheating retaliation never ends. in the end they want to settle with their own relationships and the kid will surely suffer with the lack of complete parents looking after her. One must always forgive to continue this relationship, don’t pursue the “were quits/equal” thru cheating.
I think this is a dumpster fire
You’re both toxic. Move on from him and go to therapy.
Shame on you for cheating on him. What he did doesn’t excuse your actions and vise versa. You need to re-examine your life and find help, makes me sick just hearing about this