While going through a form I created for my boss, with my Boss, she became angry when I asked her to read the whole sentence before trying to change how it was worded. This is a non compete etc form for her insurance company so the language and set up was legalized. She then accused me of gaslighting her and calling her dumb and stupid. None of which happened. My request to her, as she was reviewing and changing it was “please read the whole sentence first because it will make more sense if you do”. I don’t understand the use of gaslighting in my saying that. Please help. I work remotely and am payed salary for way few hours than I work. When job done she told me how much my work means to her and helps her. Her boss has told her that I am a lot of her success. When she had finished yelling I confronted only a couple very erroneous statements she had just mad and she said “you are right you didn’t do that” I don’t understand the attack. Or usage of term gaslighting. It seems the gaslighting was perpetrated on me. Please help.
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I dont see any gaslighting, here. I think you caught the boss slippin’, and she was embarrassed when you potbelly it out– that’s all.
I think for some, “gaslighting” has become a lot like “boomer” and “terrorist”– words that actually have a very clear definition and use case, but are now often lazily used and in a super generic way.
you disagreed with something a dummy said– therefore, you were “gaslighting, durr hurr”.
(also, it is *paid, not payed.)
Thanks. I have known her for years and only came to work for her as a friend to help her out but this ties my gut up in knots. The pay is helpful but the strain is not. And… I am a horrible speller and rely on word check etc. and hate it when stuff gets changed or replaced with wrong words. But I didn’t know it was a nautical term. It was a word I know how to spell. Lol. Typing on my phone has its drawbacks. Thanks so much for answering me.