well I’m really not sure if this is the right place to ask but I’ll just go ahead lmao.
So I have a lot of new things that I’d like to try and expand in our sex life but I’m not sure how to get her into it.. and it’s nothing crazy, for example I would really like her to start taking the pill but she’s afraid and I respect her and want her to do this only if she feels comfortable with it.
Or another example is that I want her to swallow my cum or even just keep sucking me after I cum but she’s not really into it and I wonder how should I approach this subject and how do I convince her without making her feel uncomfortable..
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I’ve been trying for 15 years and wife still won’t swallow hahahahaha so good luck with that one. Birth control is all her choice as well
“how do I convince her” – Simple…you don’t try to convince someone to do something they don’t want to do. You can ask, and if the answer is no, you respect that boundary. If you push someone constantly, the answer will always be no.
I find it’s best to do it in the heat of the moment, I like to pound a girl from behind as hard & fast as I can, when I reach orgasm I just say “Open your mouth”.
Sexual boundaries are important. If you try to convince her, that feels like pressure and you will ultimately push her away. You can talk to her about different things you’re interested in but if she’s not comfortable with it, you can’t push her into it.
Ask for what you want (politely).
She can decide what she’s down for or not. If she declines, you accept her decision without bitterness or resentment.
It’s just that simple.
Also: don’t try to “convince” your partner to try things when it comes to sex. That just sounds like you’re trying to get people to do things they don’t want to do. Instead, think of it like you’re *inviting* them. People have a lot easier time dealing with an invitation vs. dealing with someone trying to convince them of things.