Throwaway account because I don’t want this on my main.
I know vaginas are supposed to be flexible and babies come out of them and everything, but I honestly can’t fathom that ever being able to stretch mine like that. I’ve never even put a tampon in there or even my own fingers. I’ve never had sex and every time I masturbate, I only rub my clit.
I’ve seen some porn videos of girls fitting huge dildos inside themselves and I just can’t imagine doing that. I want my first time having sex to feel pleasurable, but when I tried putting a finger inside myself I couldn’t even get past my first knuckle. So how does this all work out?
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Think about how gymnasts or dancers get to the point of doing the splits. It takes practice over a long period of time. And some will be more flexible than others. Just take it slowly and always make sure you’re lubed up, naturally or artificially, and relaxed when you do it. Start small and work your way up.
Female sexual dysfunction is a legit thing. Vaginismus, it’s part being physically tighter than normal—usually there is a mental element to it like anxiety but if the muscles don’t work correctly it can make sex extremely painful.
It’s something that is not talked about or well known like male sexual dysfunction—which has a ton of solutions and a simple pill can correct. For females there isn’t a medication (that I am aware of, at least there wasn’t when I was struggling with this), there is physical therapy—a urologist that specializes or has experience in female sexual dysfunction can direct you to the right PT, there are also compound hormone creams as sometimes it is a hormone issue that prevents the vagina from adjusting properly. There are dilator kits as well so that you can work up in size. Back in the days many young women were advised that sex is always painful and that it was just part of a wife’s duty to just deal with it. This is not true and women who suffer with an unfulfilling sex life due to issues like this could benefit from the open dialogue and knowledge.
I highly suggest a dilator kit. Even if you’re not having sex, this gives you the option to at least please yourself in other ways that you haven’t experienced before. I struggled with similar issues as a teen and I didn’t even know it had a name at the time. I just thought mine was abnormally small. Even after 18 years of sexual activity I still can’t use large toys but I do not experience pain with sex because penis’s are much more soft than any toy on the market.
Also. Once you’re aroused, your vagina will expand in length and width. This is the best time to try and insert a dilator. I would still suggest using a water based lubricant as well for extra comfort.
It absolutely can take some practice and getting used to it if you’ve never done anything like that before.
If you do want to try, you need to get yourself aroused by playing with your clit which should make things wet and more relaxed. Only then when you are warmed up try to insert a finger, gently feel around in there for a bit. Then maybe try to go a bit deeper next session, add another finger for more stretch and so on. Invest in extra lube if.you want, though just for fingers to start most people get wet enough on their own.
Touching things on the inside will probably feel very oversensitive at first? The thing is your body never felt anything in there before whether the new sensation is entrance stretch or depth and is throwing all kinds of ‘??!!?’ signals. Vaginas don’t get permanently ‘loose’, but they do kind of learn how to accommodate something properly without overreacting, so in a couple sessions if a finger was initially a problem for you, it should eventually start going in very readily etc.