Recently I moved to the United States. I’m in High School and everyone so far has been very nice and accepting. My English is alright, I understand what people say to me, but it’s hard for me to talk, to articulate sentences (The vocabulary is in my head, but I always end up saying broken sentences) and many times people just don’t understand or even hear what I say. So most of the time I just don’t talk.
Social situations are a bit hard for me but I feel like without the language barrier I would’ve done much better. The people I hang around with are very welcoming and don’t mind me just sitting around them and listening, but I want to get to know them more and be part of the conversation.
I would really appreciate any advice, thank you (:
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I love the sounds of other languages and the accents. Since your new friends are accepting, I’m betting they will have patience with your responses and love to hear about your past life. Maybe write down a few questions ahead of time to gain confidence.
I would recommend finding out if there are any clubs or extracurriculars you can join. I found the cafeteria too noisy for good conversation in high school, so I would try to find other opportunities to get to know people. Maybe ask a few peers to go to a café after school and hang out, or some other activity?
What is your native language? There might also be students learning your language who would like to take turns practicing your language and English with you.
Start thinking in English. Your inner monologue, the way you go about your day, how you make small decisions, do that in English. That’s the only way to get fluent. We typically have preformed phrases, ready to say in the language we use for thoughts. Right now you’re translating in your head, that’s why it’s harder.
In the meantime, just have fun with the mistakes you make and broken sentences. It’s temporary.
Start practicing amusing one or two word responses in the mirror, as well as high and low energy appreciative listener noises.
Yeah!
That’s awesome!
Why?
You’re my buddy.
Also, keep in mind that one of the most popular things you can offer people in high school is a really good listening ear. Everyone wants that supportive friend who listens well and makes them feel respected and appreciated. Even once you get good at talking, listening might be your best option sometimes.
Quiet reactions: Ah. Uh huh. Keep going. Absolutely. What a jerk. You were right. Yup. Wow.