My girlfriend struggles a lot with decision making so when we have time to ourselves I often have to come up with ideas about what to do? I’d be fine with this but it’s almost every time and I find it a real turn off that when I ask what she wants to do, she just says she doesn’t know.
So does anyone have any advice for this kind of situation?
Cheers
Soggy
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My wife is the same way and I think it’s a combination of she doesn’t know what she wants, legitimately doesn’t have a preference, and/or she wants things that she’s not sure I’d really be okay with (threesomes, sex with another guy, etc.). I think it just depends on her mood which one it is. Especially if she wasn’t very aroused prior to foreplay I think she just wants me to call the shots.
I guess like most things, talk to her, maybe do that MojoUpgrade or watch porn with her to give her ideas or find things she likes.
We had a similar situation so we found some shows and apps to use. I wrote about [how we had conversations about kinkier sex](https://sexyfunadvice.com/2022/08/how-do-i-have-a-conversation-about-kinkier-sex/). The things in that article might help open the door to new options.
How about you ask these questions outside of sex that way she has more time to think and talk about it. Then once you have compiled a mental list of things she likes and wants try once are are having sex you don’t need to ask what she wants you will already know.
Give her a pick of three things to choose from.