Long story short: after 6 months of dating and lots of thinking, I’ve realized that my (30M) boyfriend and I (27F) are not that compatible as romantic partners. I think he is a great person and would love to stay friends if he wants that. I know it sucks to be broken up with, but I want to soften the blow as much as possible because I really care for him.
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One guy just texted me asking how I was feeling about everything and then told me that I am a great person but he wasn’t wanting a relationship with me and I totally understood. I was sad but I got over it. I still remember it cause everyone else just ghosted me and it took longer for me to get over. Don’t ask to stay friends let him move on.
She hooked me up with her friend, on prom night. Later she did the same with another friend.
Be honest and gentle. His feelings may get hurt but you do better by being honest.
Why are you ending it? Is it because you’re not very attracted to him?
There’s never really a good way. At least not in my experience.
6 month heads up, worth it
Whatever you do, don’t leave him confused. Be very clear that you’re breaking up with him.
Be open and honest… If it feels more like a friendship to you, tell him that.. Good Luck
I don’t really think there is a nice way to end it. You just have to be honest about it and hopefully they take it well. You can also possibly stay as friends, but it won’t last long.
I’ve only had someone break up with me once. We were together almost 3 years. Suddenly he was always busy or had to work extra etc. Answered my calls and texts inconsistently. Basically he had started dating someone else but didn’t have the balls to break up with me until one of our mutual friends told him to do it. He essentially was trying to ghost me. Did I mention we were gf/bf almost 3 years?! So yeah, don’t do that.
Whenever I broke up with someone I was straight forward and honest.
Say something along the lines of “I think you’re a great person, but I don’t think we’re compatible as a couple in the long run I’m open to maintaining a friendship if that’s something you’re interested in. If not, I wish you all the best. That’s how I’d like to be broken up with
Last girlfriend I had was a little bit distant towards the end so when she asked that we meet for lunch on a Saturday I immediately realized what was going to happen. Respectfully I said I’m pretty sure this is a breakup, she said I was right. I told her there was no need to discuss that over a lunch and honestly I didn’t see it going anywhere either.
To this day we meet up once in a while to have a beer as friends, no hard feelings. My advice is when you know a breakup is coming really look at the relationship the two of you had, sometimes you’ll realize it’s for the best and makes things much easier.