hi reddit i have a question for my wife
we have been together more than 10 years our relationship is very good
we are married no children no money worries
our sex life is also (for me) great (almost every day)
now comes the problem she likes the sex but that’s all a foot massage is also good and if she won’t have sex, no problem this is of course not the intention,
she should also be able to enjoy it (she also wants to hence this message)
I am a man who always can / wants and who wants to go very far to give her pleasure she deserves
we are very open with each other (we can discuss everything with each other)
we have explored fantasy/role play and much more
likking pussy/foreplay no problem
love between us is perfect no doubt
we have a somewhat open relationship I am allowed and have had sex with others (im not doing this at the moment) and she is allowed to do that too (she just has never done it)
she used to be a sex bomb (a pretty extreme sex bomb) that was then abruptly stopped after she was caught having a sexual relationship with another colleague (which caused her to leave)
now she indicates that she really wants to do something about it and have come up with a number of options
option 1: asking on reddit (lowest and easiest threshold for her) hence this post
option 2: discussing the situation with a good friend (a very small threshold)
happening soon
option 3: have sex with another friend of ours (a reasonable threshold because she has already done something sexual with him)
sounds crazy but she thinks it’s something physical (too narrow) (doctor checked it during the checkup and found nothing) that friend has a slightly larger cock if that works out then that suspicion is also excluded
Not planned yet, but it is possible
option 4: professional help (the biggest barrier through shame)
this option is possible but she only tries this as a last option (at her request I can’t force her)
option 5: do nothing she doesn’t want that
Do you have any tips or options to try?
im just asking for some advice how she can enjoy sex more (like it used to be)
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I’m going to give you the best advice in regards to eating her pussy. Suck on her lips and clit instead of licking. Suction increases blood flow and dramatically increases pleasure. Give her head like she gives you head in other words. Do this and watch her reaction to it. Suction is everything when it comes to going down on a woman. Be gentle unless she wants you to do it harder.