As the title says, me and my boyfriend are considering inviting another girl into the bedroom to join us. We’re both 20 and have been with each other for over 3 years now, so very comfortable together sexually and both trust and love each other very much.
We both been discussing how it would be cool to involve another girl sexually. We’ve only ever been with each other sexually, so he’d get to experience sex with someone else while I’d get to experience being with another girl which I’ve honestly wanted to try for a long time.
Does anyone have any advice for us going into this?
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Your wanting to try being with another girl will help, but be prepared for feelings of jealousy or similar anxieties. Talk lots before about it about your feelings and also about boundaries in the moment.
Have fun
Bits of advice from my own experience
– clear rules going in. For instance, I am not allowed to kiss the girl
– Dont use friends or people that you both know.
– Look at swinger or ENM type websites for hook ups. Had a ton of luck on Feeld
– any communication with the other party should be shared between the 2 of you.
If your relationship can handle it, then it is super fun and brings the two of you closer together. However….it has potential for making things go sideways fast.
For your first time trying something like this you might want to consider enlisting a professional to be your third. That avoids the whole “catching feelings” issue altogether while allowing someone with experience to help set the stage and keep things from getting awkward. Not to mention it’s probably easier to find a unicorn if they are getting paid to be there.
Oh, to be 20 again. Have fun. Let us know how it went! Back in my 20s, my GF and I were at the laundromat and we both saw a lovely young woman doing her laundry. My GF wanted me to approach her and ask her to join us later that evening! I told her I wasn’t a genius at seducing young women and I let the moment pass. Oh well. I wish I knew then what I know now. I would handle it much better and closed the deal. Darn.