Hi,
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So I have an issue about a guy it’s not actually “Dating advice” but, the format felt appropriate for here so here we are… I just want random people’s feedback please & ty
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1. I have never actually enjoyed relationships. The “dance” is absolutely maddening to me (I tune out like ya ya ya ya uh huh that’s nice bc I make up my mind early on where guys tend to take awhile like okay this isn’t going to work with your personality this isn’t going to work. I thought you were someone else no thanks.)
2. There is someone who wants to get to know me or is trying to “figure me out” and I don’t like him. He won’t go away. I’m giving him as little as humanely possible for the same reason.
3. I’m therefore highly frustrated
4. So many of my own life goals kind of “died” when I met him like yeah if you’re in my life I’m not doing sh– sorry not sorry I just don’t like you that much and if you’re on my arm this isn’t going to make me feel as good as I wanted so it’s not even worth it
5. He won’t go away
6. He’s pulling typical “guy” sh– when I don’t even like dating to begin with so what the f— is my question
7. People want to know why I’m not wanting to talk to anyone umm… I keep telling you then you continue to think this is going to go away. It’s not. I’m being serious you’re just dismissing how I feel which for me as the receiver of everything is even more frustrating
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So my ? for Reddit is how do I 1. Get this person to understand that I don’t want you here then make them go away for good 2. Get my own motivation back for life bc honestly if he’s here I don’t want to do anything even for myself which is a problem 3. Why do people always assume you’re just “playing a game” even people who are not this person they think I’m going to one day find it amusing or they find it amusing to see me go through this. I have been in self created hermitville for over 10 years so a lot of the “unknown rules” that people play I forgot all about. I mean everything from texting rules, phone calls, etc. At the minimum can you please clue me in? I’ve come to realize that if I have to go through this for real I’m just going to be miserable until it ends no therapy bill needed as there is nothing to fix I’m telling you the truth about how I feel. For some people their feelings are like the ‘wind’ changing from day to day I get it but, then there’s also other concrete feelings we all feel where it’s no this is really how I feel this part of me isn’t relocating anywhere.