For people who are poor at expressing their love towards their girlfriend, how can one show their love?

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1. Acts of service and quality time

2. Figure out (or ask her!) what she considers a show of affection. Not everyone is the same.

   For example, I am basically unmoved by words, physicality, or gifts. Some people love that stuff.

   I’m all about acts of service. If you do something for me that I wasn’t expecting, (especially something to make my life easier/better) I feel like you were thinking of me and loved.

   Once I had a really rough week coming up that I was dreading, and my partner at the time cleaned my car inside and out without telling me or making a show of it. I got in and I was so happy, because that was one less thing I had to stress me out that week.

3. Ask her what her love language is. Can be physical affection, acts of service, words of affirmation, or gift giving. My husband is acts of service, I am words of affirmation and physical affection. Knowing what each other is just let’s us know how to better communicate our feelings effectively to one another and how to make the other person best feel appreciated.

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5. Ask her what she wants!

6. Make her a meal you know she loves, bring home a gift that you know she will like (flowers, chocolate, ice cream, art supplies, etc.), make or buy a thoughtful card and write a personal message about how you feel.

7. It’s the little things… send a meme to make her laugh so she knows you’re thinking of her, bring her favorite food, snacks or candy, active listening when she’s talking because she wants to feel heard and understood… observe how she shows her love to you because that will clue you in on her love language.

8. Read “the 5 love languages”, it helped me and my fiancé a ton!

9. if he supports me and he’s there for me to listen to me when i need it, that’s already a sign of love for me