I’m on coop (21M) and my gf is in 3rd year at a diff uni (20F). I always try and make sure I’m able to meet her every weekend. This involves flaking on friends, who live far away or flaken on other friends. She’s in a good program and as such tends to have a lot of responsibilities. This year because of a midterm she wasn’t able to watch football with her dad(they both love football). She likes being surprised so initially I wanted to go and visit her to watch it but she was preparing for a midterm, so was too busy for me to visit (and this is a 57 km commute for me one way), as such, I wanted to watch the Super Bowl with her and surprise her with some food to attempt a virtual date. Even for the virtual viewing, she was too busy. I understood as school obviously takes priority for both of us. Later she realized she should be a bit more free and as such decided to accept invitations to meet her friends at a bar for the Super Bowl she claims that our plans weren’t “formal” and also claims to have to have forgotten about them when she made a commitment. she also states that she didn’t know it was the serious because she had no the extent of my plan. My response was the second I asked her if she was able to watch she said she was busy studying and hence I didn’t explain my plans. It just makes me feel like shit because I wanted to do this all for her and she just flaked/forgot and made other plans. I never liked football, but really wanted to do this because I felt that she missed the experience with her dad, as well as just one of those things boyfriends do to make their girlfriends feel like you’re trying to embrace their interests. Im upset as I feel like some weird second option when other events don’t seem as fun. For context we are a pretty happy couple and always enjoy our time together but I’m 99% the driving to meet her and go around and drive to do things. There are family trips I have postponed purely because I enjoy being with her and I know she benefits from the mental support. Just wanted some advice. I tried to have a conversation with my girlfriend while she apologized she also told me to find other ways to be happy and like while she meant in a totally normally as a guy who works 60+ hour weeks the only free time I have is weekends which’s hard to find hobbies and spend time with my gf. She keeps mentioning there’s nothing else she can do but apologize, but I feel terrible. Still just like some forgotten second option. AITA?