Hello. Long time reader, first time poster.
I know this may sound silly, but I’m really struggling at the moment. I’m finding it very difficult to let my partner of 5 years know when I’m horny. We used to flirt all the time – we met on Tinder – and were very active sexually.
Recently, we barely have sex once every 3 months. He likes me to dress up for him, so I do that sometimes, but I can’t do that every time!! I get that appetites change, but I would like to get flirty again. Maybe sext once in a while, but here’s the thing : I’m trying and failing, so I am hoping for other people’s input. How can I start so that he KNOWS because apparently I suck at this…!
Thanks to anyone who can give me suggestions as I feel lost and a little rejected
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Have you sent him any naughty but not naked pics ? Lure him
I haven’t met a man who didn’t like getting sexy pics regardless of where he was. Sounds like he’s dealing with something else that he doesn’t want to talk about and it involves shame. I would definitely reassure him and have a conversation and if he won’t talk about it make your frustration known. Your feelings matter too. He can decide if it’s a priority and if your not, then you may need to make a choice
cant you sext with him when he is at work to get in him in the mood
Get his attention through text in the morning by asking him if he can look at something when he gets a chance. Once he responds then send him a spicy pic and he’ll think about it all day.