I (30f) met a guy (29m) on hinge. We texted a bit and he seemed super chill, we have a few things in common like playing Video games and watching anime and stuff.
On the first day of texting, i went out with friends and after not looking at my phone for like 5 hours, i got tons of texts from him, asking me what im doing and why im not answering.
The following days he seemed to exactly like all that stuff that i am into, shares every opinion i have, wants exactly the same things in a relationship that i want. It just feels like theres something off.
He asked me on monday if i wanna meet up, so i told him im free on sunday since i have to work until 7pm everyday and then just want to go to bed or have some time for myself.
At first he seemed to understand, but then he tried to guilt trip me into meeting up with him before sunday because he likes me so much and doesnt want to wait. I told him in the nicest way that we can meet on sunday and he should tell me where and when.
He also started giving me names like babygirl or honey or darling and we dont even know eachother.
After i told him how uncomfortable this makes me, he pulled back and apologized. But now he just seems extremely depressed when we talk, fishing for compliments and kinda acts like a pick me.
My gut is telling me, i should cancel the date. But on the other hand i never had someone showering me with so much attention, so maybe im just not used to it?
What do you think?
9 comments
Always follow your gut.
he sounds like a loser
No, if he is exhibiting these qualities before you even meet. Imagine when he drops the act. I would cancel, and block the number. Men like this can be very bitter and spiteful.
I feel sorry for him. But to a woman a man like this can be unsafe, harassing or worse. Be prepared for some spite coming at you and take precautions. Social media etc. Hopefully nothing does happen with it, but men who are guilt tripping at this stage have some other things going on behind the scenes. Some very not dateable antisocial disorder. Cancel the date.
Good instincts, and good on you for following that instinct.
Cancel and block this weirdo! ASAP
Girl run
Yes, this is a big red flag. You haven’t even met yet and he freaks out over not hearing from you for 5 hours? I would cancel the date.
Reddest of all red flags!
🚩🚩🚩 this dude sounds unHINGED. Get it, cuz u met on Hinge? Hah. All jokes aside, these are qualities of dangerous ppl. Block and move on.
No, he’s not trying to manipulate you based on your post. I assume you’ve already broken up and your asking this question after the fact?