What is considered too long when it comes to foreplay?

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1. Too long is when it continues after at least one of the people involved is ready to stop. Other than that, it’s going to be individual for the people involved and the specific situation

2. At whichever point it stops being fun and a turn on and instead you start mentally planning what you’re going to have for dinner

3. When either party gets bored or angry.

4. When you’re overstimulated and you can’t feel pleasure anymore.

5. I guess when you start to lose the drive and it becomes a bit boring

6. It varies for everybody, but basically it’s too long if y’all lose interest. I’ve had foreplay last a few minutes up to a few hours. You just keep going until y’all want to do something else.

7. No such thing for me.

8. When the ‘I need it in me’ feeling takes over

9. If you know how to make love, you know when enough’s enough.

   If you are both ready to jump each other’s bones, it’s time to put the foreplay aside and get busy

10. It depends on what kind of foreplay are we talking about.

11. 20 minutes, typically, but not exclusively. Add 5 to 10minutes to that number every time you switch it up.

12. Esther Perel said that foreplay starts at the end of the previous orgasm. I like to think about it that way. So anything that happens between two sexual experience, can prepare us for the next. I can’t imagine having too long foreplay, if it becomes boring it is not because of how long it is.

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14. 15-20 mins 🧐

15. It differs by person, but personally, foreplay tends to last longer than the actual sex in my relationship. I need focus on the clit, and he will never deny head. We tend to get each other hella worked up over the foreplay, that the sex doesn’t need to last long for both of us to get off.

    The only time I’d say it’s taking “too long” is when things start getting overstimulating.

16. I actually prefer the foreplay. No such thing as too long.

17. I keep it going until she just stops everything and just jumps me like a wild animal

18. When one of you isn’t enjoying it anymore