Hi all, I met this guy on hinge and we’re a couple months along into seeing each other and we get along pretty much effortlessly. I’m (25F) really into him and he’s (26M) met my friends and I’m soon to meet his, we’ve gone to workouts, cold plunges, movies, dinner, etc. together but one thing came up during a movie recently that I’m surprised I didn’t notice before. He was breathing so loud I couldn’t concentrate on the movie and even started getting upset – it really really bothered me. I’m at the point where I want to bring it up but not in a rude way bc it seems like a pretty big deal in the long run. I noticed he was silently breathing during quiet parts of the movie, so I’m thinking he can control it? I really hope so, it’s driving me crazy just thinking about it, what do I do???
TL;DR his breathing is driving me up a wall, should I move forward with him?
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Like panting? Have you asked him?
How do you all deal with yourselves? All this to just decide to say “you know I hear you taking deeper breaths and it’s starting to annoy me.”
It’s much easier to speak softly and voice the complaint than it is to drive yourself batty over something it is damn near impossible to believe he is aware of. Number 1 rule of good relationships, communication is key. You cannot be in a good relationship if you’re afraid to say your peace.