So I matched X on bumble. We started talking for about a week or so. He was great, but there would occasionally be an odd comment ( things like, “I am not the type of man you want to disappoint”, though he said that about someone at work and not me). Anyway about a week later it’s my birthday and I go out with friends for margaritas. I don’t drink that much so I’m totally fine when we leave the brunch place. I text him a photo from the taxi that’s blurry because, well , I’m in a moving car right now. I captioned it something like “excuse the blurriness lol, might have had a few margaritas haha”. This guy, who has never sent me anything sexual or degrading, then immediately starts sending me dirty text messages. What bothered me so much about it wasn’t that he sent dirty messages. It was that he started getting sexual as soon as he heard I’d been drinking, which made me feel taken advantage of a little. It also made me nervous because it implied to me that if we had met, and I actually did have one too many, what would have happened IRL? I felt uncomfortable with that and ended it. I’m wondering now if maybe I overreacted?
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>I’m wondering now if maybe I overreacted?
I’m a guy and I’ve known far too many men (and a few women) like that. Every single one of them is a predator. Not a hanging around a dark alleyway type, but a waiting for an opportunity when you’re not quite yourself type.
I’d say you trusted your gut and got clear while you could.
I don’t think you over reacted. He sounds a bit off. Who actually says “I am not the type of man you want to disappoint”. That’s worrying and wouldn’t want to wait around for him to prove that.