* I was inspired to post my own situation after reading throwracorgis post on here*
We have been together since we were 19 the first 8 months of our relationship was rocky but since then we’ve been steady and grown together. However, the conversation of being more committed one day has come up and I seem more settled and in love with him than he is with me and I’m beginning to think it may be time to cut my losses and go through heartbreak now instead of later. He says that he sees the possibility of us being married but he’s so focused on finishing his senior year of college, the college sport he’s played since he was 5, and finding an internship/job before he can think about that kind of commitment. It sounds logical to me but I’m not sure what to do because I feel so sure about him. ( I just graduated this past July)
I personally don’t want to rush him and I don’t plan on being married until I’m ending my 20s, but I do however want a promise ring and plans of more commitment like a shared apartment.
When I brought this up to him he was honest and said he doesn’t feel ready for a promise ring but would consider living together after graduation. I’m not sure what to do here, should I cut my losses or see how the months following his graduation go? Any men out there who relate to his way of thinking and can point to whether or not he’s hiding that he just doesn’t see me as a future wife at all?
TLDR: Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t sure about marriage with me but we are also still young and in life changing phases x